Want to write better sex scenes in your romance novels? Want to spice up your sex life, period? Then Please welcome Sexuality and ADHD Coach and this week’s guest blogger, Diane Délina.
What’s a Sex Coach Doing on A Romance Writer’s Blog?
When I met Madison, I had no idea she was the author of these great romance novels. She had no idea I was an expert on Sexuality. I was coming to her home to sit with her sweet cat, Gracie. Little did we know my abundance of resources and expertise would turn out to be important solutions to some of the writing blocks she was having. It was a pleasant surprise that she would open up a world of new business opportunities for me and for you.
There’s Nothing Worse than Boring Sex…
I used to read a lot of romance novels, but I eventually got bored with the same types of story lines and sex scenes. There were those very dark sex scenes that were disturbing, crossing boundaries, and making it seem like “maybe” meant yes. It was clearly non-consensual sex, even though the author made it out to be amazing.
After I specialized in sexuality, and after coaching sessions with hundreds of people, single and coupled, I blamed some of the social misconceptions about sex on authors, screen writers, and porn. After all, their materials gave people misinformation about relationships, sex, and real life.
As a teenager, I couldn’t find anyone to turn me on like the people in romance novels turned on their “victims”. I thought there was something wrong with me. Story lines often had people ripping each other’s clothes off and fucking with little or no foreplay. Many of my clients, no matter what their genitals, don’t enjoy that at all.
Most people need a connection, and the degree can vary. And don’t get me started on how many romance novels never even mention safe sex. Why can’t putting on a condom or using dental dams be hot and sexy? Maybe one of the characters could have the Human Papillomavirus which is prevalent nowadays.
After consulting with Madison, I understood that many authors might be happy to go deeper into sexuality and have different romantic story lines if only they knew someone to take them there.
Well, HERE I AM!
Write Better Sex, Have Better Sex
I am happy to contribute my input, knowledge, and experience to authors and readers on topics such as:
- what makes a relationship great
- what the main relationship killers are
- what creates desire and attraction,
- the difference between sex and the art of lovemaking,
- about the five different Erotic Designs,
- what is true consent,
- and more.
What I know is how we do sex is how we do life, and how we do life is how we do sex. If you select one erotic design for your protagonist, we can build an entire character’s personality and sex life to be congruent. I have hundreds of real-life studies and clients to pull from for creative ideas and story lines. I possess endless human resources from my community. I can teach you about all things sex. All sexuality coaches have their own bag of experiences and knowledge. I am here to share mine.
Adding More Dimension to Characters
I am also an expert about all things ADHD. I have ADHD and am on the Autism Spectrum. I have combined both of my passions and created Sexuality & ADHD Solutions (www.dianedelina.com) to educate people about neurodiversity and how it impacts every aspect of life. I have amazing tools that work for executive function malfunctions. By the way, you don’t have to have ADHD for one executive function to malfunction. It would be interesting to have characters with neurodiverse brains. There are many people out there who would relate. If they love sex, they could be very promiscuous, adventurous, and fun. If they aren’t that interested in sex, they could have issues with libido, engaging, relaxing and more. Something like this could make for good reading since most adults know at least one person with neurodiversity, some of them are neurodivergent themselves or they have a partner who is.
FREE Webinars to Enhance Sexual Awareness
I thought it would be fun to offer you a Zoom webinar to enhance your sexual awareness. You will get a terrific understanding of your own erotic design and how to be a better lover. I am offering the session twice, for your convenience but both Zoom sessions will cover the same materials, and the session is free.
Be sure to add the date you select in your calendar. You might also want to set a reminder the day before because we will not be sending a reminder.
Thursday, October 24th, at 7pm eastern, 4pm pacific, 6pm central OR
Saturday, October 26th, 11am eastern, 8am pacific, 10am central.
The link is the same for both https://us06web.zoom.us/j/82836628595
Better Sex Scenes for Romance Writers
Wouldn’t you love to write more creative, romantic, exciting sex scenes in your novels? I am offering to teach an six-week Erotic Design Workshop Series specifically for authors. The first week we will discuss states, stages, and you can take the quiz to learn more about your personal design. Each week thereafter, we will explore one erotic design and how to heal, speak, recognize, satisfy, and enjoy it. There will be time for Q & A at the end of each 90 minute session.
The six-week workshop costs $300, recordings would be available for a limited time after each session, and the inaugural workshop will be in the first quarter of 2025. If you are interested in the workshop, please send your contact information to Maddy so that she can follow up with details.
Meet Diane Délina
My journey is one of overcoming one challenge after another with resilience, determination, creativity and drive. I tell you all of this to assure you that I speak from experience. I found management skills that work, and that has brought me on this amazing journey of finding a way to help people set themselves up for success. If you are ready for change, coaching can empower you to find a life of purpose, peace and passion.
My specialized training comes from New World Sex Education, Accelerated Evolution Academy, and ADDCA, for ADHD, a fully accredited ADHD Coach Academy. I am also a Registered Social Service Worker, and I was an elementary school teacher for over a decade.
Feel free to contact me for more information at info@dianedelina.com
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